Free From Fear

Overcoming fear with no holds barred…

November 13, 2011
by Iya Ifalola Omobola
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Conquer Fear – Quick and Easy?

 

Not.

Conquering fear is not an easy thing to do.  In fact, it seems like the closer one gets to developing a new kind of relationship with fear, the harder it is to indeed create such a thing.  Fear can be quite illusive.

It is because fear has so many creators.  A safe tool to use is realizing that ALL of those creators come from outside of us.  ”Us” meaning our mental state of being.  Many times we confuse our emotions with our mental comprehension of what is going on around us and that is what trips us up.

We are mental beings – not emotional ones.  I know.  That concept is a little difficult to grasp.

But think about it.  (After all, you are a mental being!)  How many times have you made a decision while you were in the throes of emotion and it panned out in your highest light?

I don’t know about you but I have never done so.

Emotions do not have a mental bone in their astral bodies.

Just something to think about.

 

December 18, 2010
by Iya Ifalola Omobola
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Free From Fear in 2011

 

This has been a fascinating year.  Many of us have found ourselves smack dab in the belly of the beast, so to speak, being afforded an opportunity to confront our most dreaded anticipations and finding ourselves standing strong on the other side.

Look back over your year.  See the accomplishments you have made despite the predictions of doom and gloom that surrounded you. You are stronger, wiser and more efficient in maneuvering the maze than ever before.

You truly are.

In personal reflection, this year was a phenomenal one in that I jumped totally into a new, incomprehensible arena and ended up falling in love with it.  As many of you are aware, I am a spiritual counselor – an Orisha priest – whose responsibility is to be of service to my community in assisting them find their connection to their higher purpose and then walking the path shown to be the most direct and beneficial in order to achieve that purpose.

This means I have had to literally practice – serve as a model – that which I preach.  When it was shown to us that it would be in the highest interest of our community – Ile – to move to a small, seemingly forgotten farm town that had illusions of being destitute, that is what was done.  I will not say that I was able to do so without doing a little fighting and screaming – at least internally.

It has been a year and I am so glad that I was given the opportunity to elevate to the next stage of my development and took advantage of it. I was ecstatic to be able to see the actual treasure that was presented to me in the shape of the community to which I now belong.  It is what I had always longed for but would have not been able to enjoy had I not understood the larger picture was way beyond my limited scope of reference.

Often times, we feel as if we are hopelessly intertwined with our reality.  We don’t see the rationale nor do we understand the options.  Many will “pray” for solutions to their self-perceived dilemmas, leaving the responsibility for understanding and elevation to some power existing outside of ourselves. Somehow we forgot just what Spirit is here for.  We think we have to come up with the answers – and the solutions – within ourselves and that asking God to give us that which we are requesting.

Spirit has many names to many people.  Basically, it is that sense – that Knowing – that comes from accepting that there is a larger piece to the puzzle than we could ever imagine and that there is actually a plan – a Master Plan if you will – to the pieces and yet the puzzle itself.

The work with Spirit begins within.  It is not an external thing.  One of the ways to begin is acknowledging that which has been here before us.  In many of the more ancient mindsets, the Ancestors are what are being referenced here.

Seeing how those who walked before us handled a situation is certainly a good place to start.  For instance, living on land that has potential for growing food and you have never grown food before, what do you do?  You had a great-grandmother who had acres of land where she grew fruit trees and other crops.  Tapping into her memory and accessing her databanks is not only doable but definitely recommended.

Sometimes, though, there may have been times when your great-grandmother was confronted by seemingly insurmountable barriers and she fears the same for you.  That fear will begin to show its face to you because … yes … fear is an emotion that comes from the astral plane, the home of the energy of your great-grandmother and the medium she uses to communicate with you.

Acknowledging the fear, heeding the advice and then moving on is the way in which to work with that fear.  Sometimes it is valid.  Some snakes you find in the garden are harmless and some can kill you. Generated fear when one comes across your path is opening your eyes.

Having no money in your pocket and no idea where to get any is another fear generating from times when it was really rough for our ancestors with no system set in place for assistance.  Fear in this instance also comes from earlier experiences but then needs to be released because it serves no useful purpose.

Learn to work with your emotions – especially your fear.  It can end up being your strongest ally.

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October 30, 2010
by Iya Ifalola Omobola
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Fighting Fear in the Midst of the Belly

 

By now the world is familiar with one of today’s worst horror stories that concluded with a happy ending. And we certainly need happy endings in these days and times amidst fighting fear in our own lives.

Can you imagine how it must have felt to be stuck 2000 feet under the surface of the earth for 17 days without knowing if anyone was even looking for you?  The fear that mounted must have been overpowering.

Even upon being discovered, it still took a total of 69 days before their survival was guaranteed.  And yet all 33 of the men who had been trapped survived.  They worked together as a unit and despite whatever disagreements may have occurred, they worked together for their mutual survival and made it.

It was a rescue, as President Obama says, that “inspired the world.”

It is an inspiration that shows us that the best way to fight our fear is to look to the good.  Realize that the fear can do us know good and see what the higher options are.

Each of the bellies that house the depths of our fears look differently.  What is fearful for me may not be for you.  I may be alone and afraid of losing my home but you have friends and family that are more than willing to help you out, so that is not a fear for you.

You might be afraid of starving but I have food growing in my back yard that allows me to eat.  It is not a fear for me.

The thing to remember, though, is that fearing loss or lack is guaranteed to amplify that with which we are concerned.  You conjure lack of food, that is what you are going to get.  You invoke lack of living space, that is what you are going to get.  You fear illness and you will get sick.  Count on it.

While we may never know what techniques the miners used to fight their fear but one thing was certain.  They took each day, one at a time.  And they certainly stayed in the moment.  The roof may collapse even further tomorrow, but right now – at this moment – everything is as fine as it can be.

How is your “right now”?  What is happening in your current moment?  Learning to live in the present moment is the best weapon in fighting fear.

 

October 14, 2010
by Iya Ifalola Omobola
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How To Conquer Fear

 

One of the most common mistakes people make in attempting to handle their fear is to look at it as an enemy.  While it is certainly true that fear can subject you to a litany of discomforts, which could lead to serious health issues and even death if left unintended and allowed to fester, fear is truly nothing more than energy.

The energy of emotion begins as a single atom, just as any other energy begins.  How it is shaped and where it goes is up to its shaper.  The shaper, often times, is our self.  As we fill the emotion with more energy, it becomes stronger and more defined.  Fear is the easiest to shape as it has so many others assisting in the molding the face of fear that it takes on the definition of the current mindset or trend.

Fear takes on the persona of a national pastime and becomes the emotion of choice for so many of us. We become almost addicted to its beckoning, tantalizing adrenaline rush.  And yet we know it is not good for us so we attempt to conquer its influence over us.  This becomes extremely difficult to do as the media and other image making devices keep the object of our fear shoved into our faces in all types of ways.

As we attempt to conquer fear, it gets stronger in the midst of our fighting fire with fire.  And we cannot win when we meet fear on its own playground.

Imagine what would happen, instead, that we emerge our fear in love, by elevating the energy up from the pit of our stomach and changing its compound make up so that it returns once again to the basic energy source it originally was.  It would then become putty in our hands.

How do you conquer fear?  You don’t.  You change it instead.

Are you ready to transform your fear?

 

September 29, 2010
by Iya Ifalola Omobola
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Overcoming Fear Can Be A Nightmare

 

When you find yourself wrapped up in the midst of it, overcoming fear can be more than a notion. It is extremely difficult to pull yourself out once the throes of fear have placed their grip upon you but there are ways.

The first step is to find that tiny part of your mind that refused to give in to the panic and cling to it for dear life. You will recognize the place because you will feel a sense of calm and relief there. Once there, block out attempts of the fear from getting in. It is important not to focus on what it was that created the fear. Just rest in the peace in that portion of your being that is without the fear.

Just as you should have realized that being in the midst of fear has your heart beating faster and your blood running hot, you will see that your heart will begin to slow down and you will start to feel cooler. That is the time to breathe slowly and deeply. Breathe slowly in through your nose to the count of four and push the air past your lungs into your diaphragm. Then breathe back out through your nose, again to the count of four. If you cannot breathe through your nose, then use your mouth.

As you conduct your breathing exercise, do not think about anything but your breath and the count. Continue through the cycle of in and out for five minutes. Feel the relaxation come over you and consume you.

Slowly pull yourself back into your space. Test yourself to see if you can hold on to the peace. If not, go back into your breathing until you can ground yourself. Once you can begin to operate without the fear taking control, begin to remind yourself of the blessings and joys you have in your life and the anchors created that allow you to remember who you truly are.

If you do not know what we mean when we say ‘anchors’ in overcoming fear, do not worry. We will discuss this in the next article.

Are you ready to transform your fears?

 

September 3, 2010
by Iya Ifalola Omobola
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Overcoming Fear

 

It is real easy to say “let go” and “peace be still” but truly releasing yourself into the knowing that you are divine and that which you do has direction in the face of fear is another kettle of fish.

Sometimes, even when we are sure we’ve “got it,” there are times when we get knocked off our boat.  This is a natural thing.  It is pulling yourself back up on the boat, drying yourself off and then continue rowing toward your destination that is the important thing.

Often times, we will feel guilty about feeling less than adequate and perhaps even going as far as shedding a tear or two.  Then we beat ourselves up for having given in to our fears, which contributes to intensifying the fears as opposed to letting them go.

The next thing we know, we are in the midst of depression.  Once that sucker gets you, there is no letting go.  You have to just ride the waves on that one.

The solution?  Don’t give in.  Recognize when you are beginning to slip into the control of your fear.  Some of you will get those telltale signs in the pit of your stomach – butterflies or quivers.  That is actually why we are told to breathe.  To calm those bad boys down.  When we give in to the shakes, we forget to breathe and within the tenseness, the emotion sets in.

Our breathing relaxes that area of our body and allows it to release the emotion that is attempting to gain hold of us.  We can even envision the emotion rising up through us to our heart area so we can rearrange the energy so that it feels better.

The important key is to address it when it first shows its face.  Shower it with love and show it a different perspective.  Then you will have gained an ally.

 

August 26, 2010
by Iya Ifalola Omobola
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Tapping Into Your Inner Peace

 

It’s actually very other worldly, watching what’s happening these days – almost like a prelude to one of Octavia Butler’s books, may she rest in peace. I generally stay away from the news because I understand it is geared to arrange our thinking for us but sometimes it’s good to see just what they are having us believe.

Each generation has thought they were in the presence of the infamous Armaggedon. I suppose this generation is no different. It is just that the energy of the universe in total is moving at a much more rapid pace than ever before and everything appears to be escalated. In addition, we actually hear “them” using the “A” word, something I think has never happened before.

What is even more other worldly is having the opportunity to practice what has been preached over the years by <strong>overcoming fear</strong>. Not allowing fear – be it <strong>fear phobia</strong> or whichever form it chooses to take – to take precedence over my life, to know I am co-author of my reality and most importantly, to breathe. Simply breathe. How wonderfully refreshing, cleansing and invigorating a simple deep breath can be.

It is then that I remember who I am and understand that which I need and seek to help me understand the madness is actually inside of me and accessible at all times. The effects of such remembrance is why fear is so crucial in the world by those who would prefer to pretend they are in control. Fear is explained by many as False Evidence Appearing Real. I don’t know from whence the definition originated, but it is so very apropos.

Fear is an emotion. Emotions are useful tools in making us aware of situations we might possibly ignore. Sometimes the situations might possibly put us in harm’s way. We are to acknowledge the emotion and move on. Many times, we hold on to the emotion and it begins to control us. When we realize we are in the throes of the emotion, it is too late. We can only ride the wave until it spends itself.

When we are not controlled by emotion, we can think clearly. More importantly, we can hear clearly. Our connection to our higher consciousness is not cloudied and we can better understand the most efficacious direction to take. How do you conquer fear By breathing. It is as easy as that.

Just breathe.